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2003.06.03
Feminine Nymphomania
There is a general perspective that men are the primary creators, viewers and purchasers of erotic imagery because they desire it more than women--because men are somehow more wired for erotica than women are. It is my perspective that, as a woman, my love for sex play, my sexuality and sexual fantasy is equal to that of any man who has had the balls to reveal himself to me!!! I have no idea where I fit on the spectrum of what is "average" among women, but I hardly feel I am an exception in this regard.
What is different, and I believe it is because I am female, is the way I get turned on. Most current erotica is created by and from the male context. This negates my feminine sensibilities and does not fully accommodate my preferences for arousal.
I long for erotic art and imagery that is created for my female desires--I suspect other women do too. There is so little explicit erotica (pornography) out there that is really made for women--especially heterosexual women. Mostly, erotic literature comes closest to meeting female pornographic criteria. But, I desire erotic art and imagery that is expressed from this feminine context. And as an artist, I am fortunate to have an ability to create it. Perhaps my art will also meet the sensibilities of other women and even some men (likely, from an inverse vantage point similar to the way women experience erotica made for men).
So what is it about female desire that is different from how men seem to prefer consuming erotica? Consider a general comparison: Men are the physical fillers, instantly on--with little bio-rhythmic constraints, compartmental thinkers, sexually stimulated by specific physical sensory input (visual, aural, etc.). In general, their sex drive is influenced by factors separate from their relationships.
Women are compliments to men. They are the physical receivers (the containers to be filled), they like warming up--and possess bio-rhythmic influences, they are holistic thinkers, stimulated by a collage of emotional/physical input. In general, the context of a relationship directly influences the sex drive.
Generally, both men and women love to feel attractive and capable of meeting their partners needs, they enjoy variety and novelty, they like having a mutual consensus of power--being in control sometimes (men mostly) and controlled sometimes (women mostly).
Also, there are spectral ranges that cannot be clearly defined between the sexes--and so, it seems because of biological and psychological influences, humans have the opportunity to experience a full range of sexuality and sexual preference. This includes male and female heterosexuals at the extreme spectral ends with male and female homosexuals graduating inward and perhaps androgynous hermaphrodites occupying the spectral center.
My sexual mood is very influenced by the balance of outside stimulus aligning with the well-being of my inner world. If I perceive that my environment is providing messages that I am desirable and worth the investment of seduction (the warming up) and my inner world agrees--then I become a hot sex fiend.
But, if I don't feel particularly attractive inside--for some reason, then it becomes very difficult to be receptive to outer-world stimulus. If I feel very attractive, but my outer world is not providing stimulus deserving of reception, then again, receptivity is elusive. Sometimes, the outer world cannot win because the inner world rules.
(Are all women this complex? and what the hell for? I have theories, but I won't elaborate here.)
So, given that I am aware of this dynamic in myself, I find that my fantasies (even the ones involving strangers and forced sex fantasy) have some element of relationship and ambience to them. It is not enough to simply see an aroused cock (although this is a very magnificent visual)--the erection needs to be associated with a cause that supports my inner world.
This requirement sometimes makes it difficult to express an erotic impression with a single static image--erotic prose works really well to meet these conditions--but, arousal from a story is effectively elevated by a sensory stimulus more substantial than the imagination, i.e. an illustration, video, or sounds. The lack of such wholly choreographed erotica is the reason why you will repeatedly hear a woman say, "I would like the video so much better if it had some decent artistry or a convincing story attached."
Also, women are compelled by the flirtatious tease. Something about this kind of play that does the warming up. (Instant full power on actually irritates and repulses.) The flirt can happen as a mind game with out any physical contact: it is the climate and ambiance of seduction, a sense of safety coupled with a sense of mischief and adventure, beautiful goods before the eyes, the ability to admire a mysterious package, good humor, and connective conversation. The tease can also be the preparing for a role play, going thru the elaborate motions of dressing up for a date (feeling exquisitely attractive for someone I know I want to fuck), and finally, the many varied ways of being approached by physical fore-play.
So, erotic art that compels my feminine sensibilities does not "need" to be xxx (although it does not hurt) in-my-face in order to be arousing, but it can simply tease my imagination into going there. Another crucial element is the creation of a novel atmosphere that suggests feminine oriented elements like an extremely attractive personality with a sense that it is purposefully available to me, a concept of eroticism that is unattainable in my reality, getting what I can't have, or tasting what seems forbidden.
These are the kinds of erotic pictures that satisfy my desires--such is the erotic art of Karynna.
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